What I've learned

Sometimes, I forget what I KNOW. Time on this planet has taught me these things for sure:


1. Usually my gut is right, but its always best to take a step back and let that gut reaction sink in, before you say or do something that you don't really mean or haven't really thought through. I've especially found that if I don't take a step back, I can't see the bigger picture, and experience unintended consequences to my actions. It always comes back to gaining perspective.

2. There is an appropriate time for everything. There is a time to talk about a promotion, or to ask about where a relationship is going, or to confront someone about an wrong. Right NOW is a selfish and rash approach. Waiting for the right time can make the difference between a productive, honest conversation, and disaster.

3. You can only own your feelings. If something is bothering you, express it that way. Yes, maybe someone let you down, or disrespected you, but you can't change their actions. You can tell them how their actions made you feel, and they choose to change their behavior. If they choose to engage in the same behavior that upset you before, perhaps you need to reevaluate the relationship.

4. I can't control everything, and sometimes I just have to take a leap of faith.


SO I have to take a step back, take a breath, remember what I KNOW, and then take action.