It all starts with perspective

If you don't have it, get some.  Try to get outside yourself, outside the problem, outside a situation - the view is AMAZING!  You take a step back, you can critically observe what you see, identify what works and what doesn't.   Then write it down.  In a journal.  A log of your joys and disappointments that is outside of your mind and tangible in your hands, that you can look at and analyze like any other piece of literature.  Those are my words of wisdom for the day.